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ROBIN & PAULA: BEYOND THE BLURRED LINE BY TIFFANY L. RILEY

On February 24, 2014 the entertainment world was shocked by Robin Thicke and Paula Patton’s announcement of their separation. There were some people saying it was only a matter of time, while some were totally taken by surprise.  So I guess everybody wants to know WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED??  Well before I give you the answer to that question, let me give a brief history on this couple.

 

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Paula and Robin in 2004

Robin Thicke and Paula Patton met back in 1991 when they were in high school.  The two were married on June 11, 2005.  Paula is a successful hollywood actress and Robin is an R&B singer signed to Pharrell Williams’s record label Neptunes.  His single “Blurred Lines” was #1 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart for 12 weeks.  The couple has a 3 year old son named Julian.

Okay so y’all are probably saying “Awww, they’ve been together a long time!  Whatever problems they’re having can be fixed.”  Well, If only it were that simple.  There is one person in this union who decided to sign up for extracurricular activities.  Who is the person???

ROBIN THICKE

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In August 2013, The MTV Video Music Awards premiered.  It was full of special guests and great musical performances, but also came with the most talked about shocker of the night…MILEY CYRUS TWERKIN’ ON ROBIN THICKE!!!!!!!!!

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GIRL……PUT YOUR TONGUE BACK IN YA MOUTH!!!!!
A HOT MESS!!!!!!!

According to close friends, Paula was not pleased by this performance.  They say that she was very embarrassed and that Robin took things too far with Miley.  Despite being upset Paula pretended it wasn’t a big deal and sort of “laughed” it off.  This would be one of the first blows to their marriage.  Now on to the incident!!!!!
After the MTV Video Music Awards Robin attended an after party where he ran into NYC socialite Lana Scolaro, and the two began hanging out.  Later that night they took a photo together that will probably go down in history as being one of the biggest scandals in 2013.  Here is the infamous photo….

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ROBIN KNOW HE BOLD AIN’T HE????  LADIES & GENTLEMEN, YES, ROBIN IS GRABBING THAT GIRL’S BOOTY!!!!!  I GUESS THIS WAS ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS WHERE YOU FORGOT YOU HAD A WIFE HUH ROBIN?! SMH.  He claims that this was purely an accident, that it was real late, and that he was extremely tired.  And what does Ms. Lana have to say for herself????  Well she said that when the picture was being taken she knew that Robin put his hand in the “wrong place”.  DO Y’ALL SMELL THAT???  I SMELL A HEAUX!!!!!!

So what did Paula have to say about this?  Well in front of the media she claimed she didn’t have an issue with the situation.  But once again, close friends of theirs said she was very irate and told Robin to get his act together.  You would think he would listen to his wife and show her some respect; however, a few months later he had yet another reckless moment.

In January 2014 Robin was performing at a nightclub in Paris, France and he was photographed dancing with a woman in the club.  Some said they were a little too close, and then this picture surfaced…

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OH NO HE DIDN’T!!!!!!  TRIFLIN’!!!!!!!!

Now Robin is clearly creepin’ around!  And from the looks of it he doesn’t give a damn!!!!! I mean you just don’t accidentally kiss someone, especially in a passionate way.  Of course Ms. Paula heard what happened and became extremely angry when she saw the picture.  This situation right here was said to be the straw that broke the camel’s back.  Close sources said that Robin and Paula began making public appearances separately.

The last time Robin and Paula were spotted together was at the 2014 Grammys, about a week after the kissing picture surfaced.  Shortly after, the couple publicly announced that they were separating.  Since the announcement Robin has been trying to win Paula back.  He even went as far as to sing “Let’s Stay Together” by R&B soul singer Al Green at a concert he was performing.

Okay here’s my opinion of the whole situation…Robin, you are stupid as hell!!  It is clear that the success of your #1 hit record has gone to your head!!!  This man had a beautiful successful woman in his corner for 20 plus years (remember they’ve been together since high school) and he screwed it up!  Will she ever forgive him?  Who knows, maybe one day, but for right now Ms. Paula…..ENJOY THE SINGLE LIFE!!!!

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THE BLURRED VISION OF LOVE IN SOCIETY BY DJ EPIC

Every day millions of people begin their day by reading social media feeds; social media feeds that are filled with stories of heartbreak and heartache.  And let’s be honest with ourselves, the majority of these posts are made by women.  Before the male readers begin to draw conclusions, let’s clarify; these women were not originally filled with delusions of grandeur.  They once believed in love, and probably still do, but they were given a reason to feel the pain they feel.  And most of this could have been avoided if men simply knew how to love women better.  Whether men choose to believe it or not, we do play a role and must accept accountability for causing broken hearts.  The reason for this is quite simple:  most men simply do not know how to love.  Well at least they don’t know how to love properly.

There once was a time when a man could sit down, put on a Lenny Williams record, listen to “Because I Love You” and at least have an idea of what real love should feel like.  Unfortunately we no longer live in that era.  With roughly 84 percent of single parents being women, there are just not enough fathers out there passing down the lessons and traditions of old fashioned love.  Let’s face it; today’s men are pretty selfish with love.  We feel that as long as we say it, then that’s all that matters.  We however miss the point that love is a verb, it requires action.  And although I look at the diluted version of love that is given by most of us men and shake my head at it, I do however feel that this misguided love isn’t necessarily on purpose.  For the most part it is simply a lack of understanding and knowledge.

There is hope!  Social media and television have simply desensitized us and watered everything down.  If you want to understand and get a clearer picture on how to love, you don’t have to search to the ends of the earth.  Simply look around you, some of the best resources are right before our eyes and often overlooked.  When was the last time you saw an older married couple walking around the mall shopping together, or at a baseball game?  These couples are all around us; living proof and testimonies of real tried and true love.  Many of these couples are our parents, aunts, uncles, even our President and First Lady.  I challenge you next time you encounter one of these couples to study them.  Watch how they enjoy each other’s company, how they engage in conversation, how they hold each other’s hands, how they embrace each other.  All of these are strong signs of affection and good communication skills, small but pivotal keys to building a strong foundation for everlasting love and a great relationship.

Men, the resources are out there and very prevalent.  All it takes is just a little time and patience.  Once you learn how to communicate and listen to the women you care about, you will then learn to listen to her heart and will soon find the key to loving her the right way.  It is important to know that you can’t love every woman the same way.  That’s why good communication is important.  If you truly want to give her the love she needs, learn to embrace her as an individual.  And the best thing about love is that it is infectious.  It will spread between the two of you and then soon those around you will feel the impact.  Remember, it’s never too late for love.

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True love endures, true love conquers. –Epic-

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TO HAVE, TO HOLD, TO COMPROMISE THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY BY Sylvia TruGem Warren Woods

TO HAVE, TO HOLD, TO COMPROMISE

THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY

BY Sylvia TruGem Warren Woods

Statistically, marriage has become less common among African Americans.  According to the U.S. Census, African American households are the least likely to contain a married couple, compared to other racial/ethnic groups.  Marriage appears to contribute greatly to the economic well-being of African-American families.   During the last decades, the rates of marriage in the black community have declined while the rates of divorce, separation, cohabitation, out-of-wedlock births, and children residing in female-headed households have increased (http://www.healthymarriageinfo.org.)  With that, more than ever, America needs the Black family.  So what happened?  There are many factors to consider obviously but I’ll speak on one issue; longevity.

 

Our parents, grandparents and great grandparents knew what it was like to stick it out.  If they were having problems, it was nobody’s business but their own.  If they no longer loved each other, they saved face by acting normal yet slept in separate beds.  If there were any indiscretions it was hushed and not flashed around town.  Were the methods they used effective?  Yes.  Some methods of course weren’t ideal, but were still effective and ultimately saved the family.  Today, sticking it out and making it work seems to be a past time in the Black community.  The words “I do” should possess permanent power.  Those words were not taken lightly then and shouldn’t be taken lightly now with what seems to be a combination of a self and societal annihilation of the Black family.  Traditional vows are widely held and highly respected by many, including myself, however I do believe the willingness to compromise should be a part of a tradition the Black family seems to have lost in the ruins over the years. 

 

A marriage is sure to fail without compromise.  Can compromise take place when two people aren’t happy and neither are willing to find out why?  Not likely.  Can compromise take place when one person feels they are always right and the other is always wrong?  Won’t happen.  Can compromise take place when one person’s flesh begins to cloud their judgment on what’s best for the family?  Not ever.  Can compromise take place between two people who haven’t a clue how to not only suffer but also accept the trials and tribulations that seem to go hand in hand in marriage?  Not likely. 

 

Love is equally important in a marriage but even it is not possible without the willingness to brave the waves, walk over coal, take a few punches and sustain a few setbacks all with the willingness to repeatedly take one for the team.

 

Compromise, stronger than love.  

 

Sylvia TruGem Warren Woods