Every day millions of people begin their day by reading social media feeds; social media feeds that are filled with stories of heartbreak and heartache. And let’s be honest with ourselves, the majority of these posts are made by women. Before the male readers begin to draw conclusions, let’s clarify; these women were not originally filled with delusions of grandeur. They once believed in love, and probably still do, but they were given a reason to feel the pain they feel. And most of this could have been avoided if men simply knew how to love women better. Whether men choose to believe it or not, we do play a role and must accept accountability for causing broken hearts. The reason for this is quite simple: most men simply do not know how to love. Well at least they don’t know how to love properly.
There once was a time when a man could sit down, put on a Lenny Williams record, listen to “Because I Love You” and at least have an idea of what real love should feel like. Unfortunately we no longer live in that era. With roughly 84 percent of single parents being women, there are just not enough fathers out there passing down the lessons and traditions of old fashioned love. Let’s face it; today’s men are pretty selfish with love. We feel that as long as we say it, then that’s all that matters. We however miss the point that love is a verb, it requires action. And although I look at the diluted version of love that is given by most of us men and shake my head at it, I do however feel that this misguided love isn’t necessarily on purpose. For the most part it is simply a lack of understanding and knowledge.
There is hope! Social media and television have simply desensitized us and watered everything down. If you want to understand and get a clearer picture on how to love, you don’t have to search to the ends of the earth. Simply look around you, some of the best resources are right before our eyes and often overlooked. When was the last time you saw an older married couple walking around the mall shopping together, or at a baseball game? These couples are all around us; living proof and testimonies of real tried and true love. Many of these couples are our parents, aunts, uncles, even our President and First Lady. I challenge you next time you encounter one of these couples to study them. Watch how they enjoy each other’s company, how they engage in conversation, how they hold each other’s hands, how they embrace each other. All of these are strong signs of affection and good communication skills, small but pivotal keys to building a strong foundation for everlasting love and a great relationship.
Men, the resources are out there and very prevalent. All it takes is just a little time and patience. Once you learn how to communicate and listen to the women you care about, you will then learn to listen to her heart and will soon find the key to loving her the right way. It is important to know that you can’t love every woman the same way. That’s why good communication is important. If you truly want to give her the love she needs, learn to embrace her as an individual. And the best thing about love is that it is infectious. It will spread between the two of you and then soon those around you will feel the impact. Remember, it’s never too late for love.
True love endures, true love conquers. –Epic-